MySingleSpace celebrates the possibilities in being single. In MySingleSpace, you can learn, grow, and connect with information and resources that will enrich and deepen your life single or single-again.
Landmark Wisdom Courses
Welcome Conference for Global Transformation
We are indebted to Landmark Education's Wisdom Division for the context and distinctions used in the following exercise.
Conference for Global Transformation 2017
OPENING UP THE CONVERSATION: BEING SINGLE
The "What's So" in Being Single
People who are single sometimes comment on experiences that they associate with being single. Some can be challenging:
My best friend just got engaged; now who will I hang out with.
"You are so great; why hasn't someone snatched you up already!"
Who can I ask to pick me up from my medical procedure?
Oh no- another single supplement if I go on this trip!
And some can be great.
I'm so excited about learning to sail; my ex hated water, so we never got on a boat!
The Freedom! I love that I don't have to check in with someone else. Taco Bell every night if I want!
The confidence I feel learning to do things that my mother would have always expected my father to do.
Networks of Conversations, "Stickies" and "Young Conversations"
We live in a "network of conversations" about what it means to be "single", shaped by our cultures, families, and communities. And some of these conversations and ideas can be limiting. In the space below are examples of disempowering ideas that can stick to us ("stickies"). You can add conversations from your network (family and culture) as well as your own "stickies" and "young conversations" about being single by clicking here.
MAYBE I'M BEING TOO PICKY...
I DON'T THINK I CAN BE HAPPY UNLESS I HAVE A GREAT JOB AND AM MARRIED
THERE IS NOONE OUT THERE...BELIEVE ME!
SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE THE THIRD WHEEL
I'M THERE FOR MY MOTHER, BUT WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF ME WHEN I AM OLD!
SingleSpace: Empowerment, Possibility and Creation
By recognizing assumptions (through conversation, ones own experience, collaging, and exploring research that challenges stereotypes and cliche's), we can see SingleSpace as a place of creation and possiblity. We can live powerfully, whether we choose to be single, or circumstances have brought us into Single Space. Here are some Pleasures and Possiblities in the space of being single. Add your own by clicking here.
BEING SINGLE, I HAVE THE TIME TO VOLUNTEER FOR THE LOCAL ARTS COUNCIL...
ILOVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO EXPLORE AND MAP OUT MY COURSE
BEING SINGLE HAS CHALLENGED ME TO OPEN UP TO PEOPLE TO EXPAND MY CIRCLE OF FRIENDS
I HOPE TO MEET A SPECIAL SOMEONE SOMEDAY, BUT SEE MY SINGLE TIME AS A PLACE TO GROW
FROM MY DIVORCE, I LEARNED THAT PUTTING A "WE" BEFORE A SOLID "ME" DIDN'T WORK
I THINK ALOT OF MY CONFIDENCE HAS COME FROM BEING SINGLE
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Recovering from a breakup or other loss?
Looking for Friends and Community
About to Head to ANOTHER Wedding?
Wondering if you should Settle?
Having Birthday Anxiety
Worried about growing old Single...
Looking for Love
Wondering Where are All the Single Men?
10 Science-Backed Reasons Being Single is Good For Your Health By Rachael Schultz
SPECIAL TOPIC: Being Single In Sickness and Health
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Journaler's Corner: Writing to Depressurize New Years by Dr. Beth Jacobs
The Holidays have arrived, and so has Dr. Karen Gail Lewis's very helpfulSingle Womens Holiday Survival Guide!! Dr. Lewis provides some very practical and empowering approaches to managing common challenges when visiting family and creating your own celebrations.
Dr.DePaulo has also written some other useful articles for singles facing the holidays For example, maybe it's time to create a different and refreshing holiday for yourself by staying home. DePaulo has also pointed out that single people may face expecctations that they are free to pick up the slack during the holidays, when married coworkers with children need to take the time off.