When you stay in relationships that don't develop, grow and become what you hope they would be, you may be “Stuck in Love.” You may be "Stuck in Love" if you:
Obsess, trying to figure him or her out.
Are working extremely hard to make it work.
Are on a roller coaster of emotions and hope.
Make excuses and too many compromises (e.g. breaking plans, tiptoeing around issues).
Engage in fantasy, wishful, and "if only" thinking, waiting for the relationship to work.
Don't feel comfortable or accepted.
Don't feel that your partner can appreciate or at all fit into your world.
“Stuck out of Love” means that you have erected barriers against being open to partnership, since intimate relationships seem too dangerous or difficult. When a person is “Stuck out of Love,” he or she sets up artificial barriers against potential partners and risk.
You may be “Stuck out of Love” if you…
Are convinced no one will ever be good enough.
Make the chances of meeting someone impossible.
Have pre-judged that certain people are not right.
Feel you can’t meet anyone because of self-perceived “flaws”.
Focus on statistics that confirm your sense that it is hopeless
Being “Stuck in Love” or “Stuck out of Love” means that fear dominates decisions about partnerships. Such fears may include: fears of being alone, fears of being disappointed, fears of being controlled, or fears of “losing yourself.” You may deal with such fears by either trying to “force solutions” or avoid intimate relationships entirely. Click here if you would like to learn more about being "Open to Love."
